Raising a deaf child

by Melody

(Howe, IN)

As a young woman, I knew there were deaf people out there. I just never understood how different things were for them until I had my oldest daughter. She was born with her hearing but it was never what the doctors said it should be. At a year old, she went completely deaf. I was devastated, I didn’t know what to do. I denied it for about a year and a half. We went through tests for almost two years before her insurance would cover the cochlear implant.

Those years were hard on me and her dad, we split up and had to watch our little girl grow more and more frustrated with the situation. There were days that she would smack herself in the head out of frustration and other days she wouldn’t even play with her toys. When the time came for the surgery, we were very nervous and scared.

Everything went fine during the surgery. About two months later, we went in to the hospital and they gave my daughter her head piece. Now she can hear again but everything is distorted and electronic sounding to her. She is now eleven years old and lives a very active life. She has learned sign language and has even taught her dad and I. She is a wonderful young lady who even though she is hearing impaired, doesn’t let it bother her in any way. She is my inspiration when things get bad.

Comments for Raising a deaf child

Jun 18, 2014

Deaf child and cochlear implants


by: Anonymous

My deaf daughter is now 23. We found out when she was 18 months, but I knew it by the time she was 9 months. Because she was born deaf,she never responded like a hearing kid. She is severe to profound HOH, and wore hearing aids as a child. She is able to speak, but when she got to be a teenager, the tinnitus (ringing in the ears) which is very common for HOH people, became so severe that she actually appeared to be mentally ill. She elected to stop wearing her aids after much pain and severe depression. Now that she’s adult and I have met many other Deaf through her, I can honestly tell you that most HOH people eventually give up on any type of “hearing device” for a variety of reasons. Digital aids allow my daughter to “hear” sounds, but since she grew up not hearing, she has no idea what the sounds mean and it is more of a distraction to her than a help. Be open and accepting if she chooses to abandon auditory devices at some point..and above all, do learn ASL.

Jun 21, 2011

Hard of Hearing

by: Anonymous

I am an ASL student becoming an interpreter. I have not been involved with the deaf community very long but I do know that they prefer Hard of Hearing or deaf. Using the phrase “hearing impaired,” implies that they are broken and that is not the case. Thank you for sharing your story and I hope that I didn’t offend you by offering some information.


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